Logandran & Leela’s destiny is one that you could say was fated from above. The way they met and ended up together was serendipitous, with a mix of fate and destiny. Keep reading to hear Leela tell their story in detail.
Coincidence, fate, or destiny?
And when you think about it, most love stories start that way. Every moment leading up to the one in which you meet your future husband or wife somehow shapes you and prepares you for the person you were fated for. Any previous heartbreak, dark days, or lonely nights can be crucially important in the grand scheme of things – sometimes we need to know what something feels like when it goes wrong before we ever really know when something is right.
We met at which could either be considered terrible timing or great timing. I choose to believe the timing was perfect. Our paths did cross. The encounter was truly by chance. Little did I know when I woke up that morning that my life was about to be turned upside down. I didn’t know it at the time, but this was a game-changing move. One of those moments where the universe intervenes because that event wasn’t in keeping with the greater plan. My life would be drastically different right now. Funny how the smallest little decisions and changes of course can alter the entire plot of your life.
I met Logandran through a mutual friend by chance in a restaurant on a New Years Eve. I still remember I was shifting houses when we met, and we didn’t even have a handshake because I was so stressed as I was in the midst of shifting to a new place. All that I was thinking at the time was how to get things sorted out soon. We didn’t meet after that, maybe once or twice but it was merely a warm smile and few hellos. Two years later, we bumped into each other through Facebook, and exchanged numbers. We started texting each other through SMS (way before WhatsApp even existed) and there was truly an instant attraction this time. We realised that we think alike most of the time, and that always surprises us. It was rather puzzling – why did this good looking guy with so much of good quality remain single? I was frantically trying to matchmake him with my single girlfriends. Now I know why not even one of it worked out because God has better plans than us.
We texted through days and nights, but will go on complete silence whenever we face each other. The feeling was so beautiful. I could literally feel the flap of the butterfly wings in my stomach and even throat. We totally fell in love even though we decided not to move so soon into relationship. We kept our feeling towards oursevles worrying what if one of us rejected and we will lose this special bond and emotion that is lingering around us.
We often exchanged song lyrics and gave hints to each other through text messages. I can recall the time when he would ask – Vinnaithandi Varuvaiya? (will you cross the skies for me?)
Where I would reply him – naarai kudum natkalile yennai konja thondruma (will you love me even when my hair turn greys?) from Chuditar Aninthu song (Poovelam Ketupaar). I wish I could have screenshotted all those beautiful moments, but I did document all these messages in my laptop.
And I could say – “the rest is history – I fell for my best friend who has been there through my good and bad.” I was a fresh graduate at that time and Logan was in the midst of settling down in his career. We went through a lot of trials and tribulation and had never left each other in any of those hard times.
We are so different from any other couple that I know. It is purely a love-hate relationship. There wouldn’t be a day complete without a fight. And we get back quite fast after all the mini fights and arguments like nothing happened. Some of our friends were skeptical if this will even end up in marriage. What make our bond special is we are opposites – north and south pole, so different yet aligned on the same grid.
After 6 years of dating, after a million fights, and of course making up, eventually we got tired of driving miles to make up after each fight that we decided to tie the knot. We had the “ponnu-parkum’ ceremony back in my native place – Perak, Malaysia on January 2017 before we decided to get engaged in June of 2017. It wasn’t a very big deal to convince our parents as we both have visited each other parents in the beginning of relationship and we clicked well.
On the fateful 6th November 2017, we both got married in a traditional South Indian style Wedding in a temple in Kota Kemuning – Sri Mariamman temple Klang, Selangor, Malaysia. I had so much fun in planning the wedding as I am an artistic person whom always indulge in DIYs and crafty works. I had a difficult time trusting others with tasks but also had a difficult time making decisions. Pinterest had been a true inspiration right from the beginning.
We ended up planning everything ourselves, alongside with our family and friends who helped us out tremendously. Logan, being a technical person completely trusted me in the decisions and left me alone in the court for decision making and final selection. But I will always try to drag him in the decision making process. For my wedding, I had the best vendors I could have asked for. Being the first one to get married from both sides, the expectation was rather on the high side.
Makeup Artist – Makeup by Aishu
Aishu had been a wonderful fairy godmother in turning me from a plain jane into a beautiful classic Indian princess. I received a lot of compliments from my guests and even strangers on Facebook. I have never even once regretted my choice. I settled for a deep orange Kancheepuram saree with purple pallu and blouse (with a mirror cutwork). My first saree was my engagement saree, a Blue Kancheepuram saree with I matched with a contrast yellow peacock-embroidered blouse. I enjoyed experimenting with colours and design. Aishu styled me perfectly by pairing it with an Araku set. I’m still getting compliments pouring down through Facebook and Instagram. The only request I made is to maintain my skin tone. To be very honest I saved hundreds of photos for reference but I was just too tired in planning and execution, so I decided to give in. I didn’t even glance at the mirror while she was working with her magic wands and stardust. I went speechless when I first looked at myself.
Photography – Artsy Photography
It’s the duo who managed to keep us calm throughout the event – Johan and Prabhu. Both did a spectacular job in capturing our once in lifetime event. I love their concepts and ideas which is why I had booked them for all my events. Johan even suggested some poses knowing that I am a classical Barathanatyam dancer, which left us in surprise to see what the poses turned into. I was literally tearing when I first saw the the pictures.
Videography – Frixie Production
It was one of the smartest moves that I have made in life, and the best investment ever. Frixie Oroduction, left us floating in the air watching the montage video repetitively. See it for yourself at the bottom of this feature.
I remember my wedding day was a bit of a chaos with the caterers arriving late into the scene. I couldn’t get a lot of snaps with my bridesmaid who were dressed in rainbow coloured sarees. We were surprised with the number of the guest that turned up and tried taking photos with all of them. I stressed into taking loads of pictures even though I was exhausted as I know this was a once in a lifetime experience and I won’t ever live this moment again
In the midst, I just couldn’t gather all my bridesmaid all at one time. That’s my biggest regret, but I am thankful that everything fall into place between the chaos and stress.
My bridesmaids were dressed up in rainbow coloured sarees as I want my wedding to be colourful. It was so nice to see them as they walked across the aisle through the guest. It was a complete feeling to have beautiful bridesmaids adorned with long jadaimalais, jasmine flowers, and nettichudis escorting me to the manavarai.
I didn’t splurge a huge amount for decoration as the wedding happened to be in one of the most beautiful temples in town. I like the idea of sculptures and arts around the temple without overcrowding it with other details. We settled down for garberras and jasmine garlands for the manavarai decoration with a majestic Ranggoli from Siran Arts
My advise for future brides would be to enjoy the process and don’t get stressed on your big day even when something is going wrong. Eventually, everything will fall into place. What is more important is to keep smiling because you don’t want to end up showing your frown-faced photos to your grand-kids.
Typically at Indian weddings, we will encounter a situation where everyone will be generous with opinion. Remember, at the end of the day, it is your wedding and you have to decide for yourself unless – it comes from a professional. Be smart enough to know when you need to stand firm on your ideas, and when to let it loose. You can be a bridezilla, however try not to hurt anyone or try to reject their ideas in a nice way.
Tie The Thali would like to thank this lovely couple for sharing their big day with us and our readers. We wish them nothing but the best for their married life!