Everything truly happens for a reason.
Being raised by strict Tamil parents who thought the norm was for a Tamil to marry a Tamil, I did not know what I was going to put my parents through when I fell in love with a man who was Guyanese. Nonetheless, it was the best decision I had ever made!
Delon and I met at The Brick in 2012, where we both worked as Sales Representatives. When we first met, at the time I was not looking for a relationship and had no intention of falling for him. However, things changed in November 2012 when Delon decided to get my number from one of the co-workers and text me. (picture of text below) We started texting and talking to each other for hours, days and nights. Delon and I only grew stronger as individuals and as a couple, as years went by together. We overcame many obstacles as we both have two different personalities and you truly become aware of unconditional love when your partner enjoys doing an activity that you completely despise. Early in our relationship Delon made it clear the next time he took a girl into his home to introduce to his parents, she will be the one he marries. I met Delon’s family a couple of years into our relationship and it always bothered me that my parents did not know I was having dinner with my future in-laws and that I was lying to them.
I found myself in a bit of a rut trying to figure out how I’m going to tell my parents that I was in love with a non-Tamil and not knowing how they would react was really difficult. I would spend nights practicing my “lines” to what I would say to my mom. I had to wait 3 years into our relationship to tell my parents about him. Of course, I had to wait until I finished university and had my degree, so my mom could not say I was distracting myself from my studies. Bringing Delon into our family taught my parents to look outside the box. They both only cared for my happiness and were so welcoming once they had met him and knew as well that he was the one for me. For our first date, we went to The Toronto Zoo and four years later in July 2017, Delon proposed to me at the same place. We took our first selfie together in front of the giraffe’s at the zoo and took another one four years later when he asked me to be his wife. He became everything – my go to, and my best friend.
Delon proposed to me in July 2017 and we got married February 10, 2018. We got married at Richmond Hill Hindu Temple and our Wedding Reception was at Chandni Grand by Grand Cinnamon Banquet Hall the same day. It feels like a dream! I would re-live the day without the planning portion of it.
Thinking about this now it seems funny but at the time I was a complete mess, trying to keep my parents happy, Delon happy and also trying to keep myself happy. If I had to do it all over, I would not change a thing – it all ended up great and everyone was filled with emotions of joy and happiness!
Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. Most importantly have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. #nishuanddelu2018 #srikkanthantogeer2018
Photos: Digital Fusion
Cake: Yorkshire Pudding
Wedding Dress: Julia’s Bridal